If you’re aged over 50 and living with HIV we’re here to help. Whether it’s coming to terms with a new diagnosis, managing treatments, dealing with sex and relationships, feeling better about yourself, or you just want someone to talk to – we can offer support that’s right for you. We probably know what you’re going through because we’ve been there too. All our frontline staff and mentors are living with HIV.
We know that being diagnosed with HIV can be a worrying and confusing time. With our programme of workshops, one to one support and groups, help is never far away
Our recently diagnosed weekend workshops are here to help you gain a better understanding of HIV, talk about treatment options and discuss living with HIV as part of everyday life. You’ll also meet other people in a similar position, facing the same kind of concerns. Dates and further information can be found here
Using our network of trained peer mentors, we’ll match you with someone who has been through similar issues as you and can give you the individual support you need
Whether you need a one off session or something ongoing, we can tailor support that’s right for you. All our peer mentors are living with HIV themselves and are trained to provide a comprehensive package of emotional and practical support around all aspects of living with HIV. For more information please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you are experiencing financial difficulties or need support around welfare, our benefits advisor can help
Our benefits advise team can check your benefit entitlements, help you to complete the necessary forms, advocate with the Department of Work and Pensions and your local council and attend medical assessments with you. Appointments are available by request.
If you would like to develop new skills and use your own experience to support people living with HIV why don’t you consider training to become a peer mentor? For more details contact Garry Brough on 020 7713 0444 or email email@example.com. For information about other volunteering opportunities with us please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
to find out about other support for people living with HIV aged 50+!
HIV (human immunodeficiency virus) is a virus that attacks the immune system. It is a transmissible virus that is present in blood, genital fluids (semen, vaginal fluids, and moisture in the rectum) and breast milk. It is mainly passed on to someone else during unprotected anal, vaginal and oral sex or by sharing injecting equipment.
Whereas HIV is a virus that can be passed on, AIDS (acquired immune deficiency syndrome) is a combination of illnesses and symptoms caused by having HIV over time. The virus affects the body’s immune system, the part of the body which usually works to fight off germs such as bacteria and viruses. A weakened immune system leaves the body more vulnerable to attack by a range of different diseases and opportunistic infections. It may take many years for somebody who has HIV to develop AIDS if they are not on treatment. HIV medication can stop the virus damaging the immune system altogether.
Is there a cure for HIV?
No, there is currently no cure for HIV/AIDS but modern HIV treatments are very effective and help to manage your HIV. They suppress the levels of the virus in your body down to very tiny amounts until they are so low (Doctors call this undetectable) in blood samples, which is the goal of treatment. As long as you take your medication correctly at the times prescribed (known as adherence) you can expect the virus to stay at this very low level indefinitely.
I am worried that I may have been exposed to/ exposed someone to HIV, what do I do?
HIV is not an easy virus to catch sexually, but if you are worried that you may have been exposed to a risk the first thing you should do is go to your doctor or a sexual health clinic and get an HIV test. If you do this straight away (and within 72 hours) you may also be prescribed PEP (post exposure prophylaxis) which can stop the virus before it has a chance to take hold. PEP is also available at any hospital Accident and Emergency department. (If you have an undetectable viral load the risk of passing HIV is extremely low, close to zero. Please consult your doctor if you are unsure about your viral load or medication).
It’s also helpful to understand how HIV is and is not transmitted.
HIV is found in body fluids including genital fluids (vaginal fluids, semen and moisture in the rectum), and blood. The main ways that HIV is passed on are through unprotected anal or vaginal sex and by sharing injecting equipment. Performing oral sex may pose a small risk if there are sores or bleeding gums, as this provides an easy route for infection, but the person with HIV would need to have high virus levels (viral load) to make this likely. Condoms provide excellent protection against HIV transmission during sex. Effective HIV treatment, which reduces viral load, has been shown to reduce the risk of transmission.
Saliva, spit, urine and faeces are not infectious for HIV. You cannot get HIV from kissing, hugging, or by shaking hands with somebody with HIV – or any other normal social contact. Nor can you get HIV by being in the same place as someone with HIV, or by sharing household items such as crockery, cutlery, or bed linen. HIV is not passed on by spitting, sneezing or coughing. Many sexual situations have no risk of transmitting HIV such as masturbation, receiving oral sex and vaginal or anal sex using a condom.
Telling a sexual partner about HIV is an individual decision, and it can be difficult one to make. If you would like support around it you could speak to one of our youth peer-support worker, someone else living with HIV who has gone through similar experiences.
Do I have to disclose my HIV status to my Partner, Place of Study/Education, Work colleagues, Family, Friends?
Talking about our HIV and disclosing our status to others is one of the most challenging things about living with HIV. Deciding who and how to tell can feel very daunting, especially when we are first diagnosed. There are lots of different people we might want to disclose to: a partner, family, friends, work colleagues and healthcare providers. Here are some general tips on how to go about this. For more information and things to consider with particular audiences, download our Talking about HIV factsheet.
General disclosure tips
How will HIV affect my sex life?
Having HIV can affect people’s feelings about sex in many different ways. Some people become anxious about passing HIV on, or feel less desirable. While some people may go off sex altogether for a time, others might instead look for it more and more. It may seem more important than ever to feel wanted or to have moments of intimacy and pleasure.
Some people living with HIV believe that a partner with HIV is the perfect solution. These days, with so many people on treatment with an ‘undetectable’ viral load, there are many people living with HIV who are in relationships where the partner is not HIV positive. Whatever the HIV status of your partner, the success of a relationship will probably be determined more by shared interests rather than HIV status.
Most people living with HIV do continue to have sex and form relationships. If you use condoms, it’s unlikely that you will pass HIV on to a sexual partner. If your HIV treatment is effective and your viral load is ‘undetectable’, it’s unlikely that you will pass HIV on to a sexual partner, even if you don’t use condoms.
However, condoms are important for your health too – they will protect you from sexually transmitted infections. Some infections, such as hepatitis C, can be more difficult to treat when you have HIV. So it’s a good idea, particularly if you have multiple sexual partners, to get regular sexual health check-ups.
Where can I find services in my area?
It is helpful to have HIV specialised services around you, it allows you to engage with other people living with HIV. Ask your doctors or clinicians about these. However since in some area there are not many young people living with HIV you may have to move around.